Genetic Parenting is an aspect of parental behaviour evident throughout nature. The singular purpose of all living things is to pass on their genes to a new generation and, in so doing, seek to enhance their genetic prospects.
This law of nature applies equally to humanity.
Genetic Parenting is therefore about choosing the right genetic partner; it’s about maintaining our genetic focus throughout our lives; it’s about being totally committed to our children.
It is by giving our offspring the best chance in life that we are most likely to be genetically successful; we are most likely to secure our genetic continuation.
Too often we kid ourselves that this is what we do. Few people will ever admit to putting themselves before their children or seeking their own pleasures and ambitions before that of their children. And yet, that is what regularly happens. Unfortunately, our Genetic Priority is an aspect of our lives that we often overlook or that we are becoming increasingly divorced from; lured away from it as we are by society’s distractions, pressures and temptations.
Genetic Parenting is about doing what is right for our genes. It is about getting the most out of our self and passing on the best of our self. We live our life for their future.
It is up to parents to maintain that Genetic Priority, which means doing the best they can for their genes. In order to do this they must manage the environment and the “Impressionable Moments” their child experiences in order to ensure that the child has what it takes to be genetically successful.
There are two distinct phases of Genetic Parenting. Firstly, Pre-natal Parenting which includes the following considerations:
Pre-conceptual Parenting: This is the basis for determining the raw materials that we have to work with. Our choice of partner, the quality of our reproductive material, the timing of the conception and the nature of the environment will all be factors in determining our genetic prospects.
Parenting in Pregnancy: Life does not begin at birth but at conception. We should therefore be aware that an unborn baby is being influenced by the experiences it has. It is a time when a child’s genetic chances can be substantially enhanced or weakened.
Parents at Birth: Being born is perhaps the greatest “Impressionable Moment” we experience. As such, it can have a significant bearing on our future. It is for this reason that we have to be wary of certain types of medical intervention and that we should make the birth as positive an experience as possible.
Secondly, Post-natal Genetic Parenting identifies four aspects that we need to actively and positively nurture in order to ensure that our children can go on to be genetically successful.
Parents for Learning: The more we learn the more able and the more successful we will be. Children learn through play. It is therefore up to parents to ensure that a child’s play contains two essential elements; that it has variety and that it is also stimulating.
Parents for Discipline: Society is an ordered environment that if we want to be a successful part of then we are obliged to learn how to obey rules. The more disciplined we are thenthe more suited we are to living in society, which means we will be more successful and consequently more genetically attractive. Discipline is acquired when we are young and is determined by the effectiveness of a child’s parents in establishing and enforcing rules.
Parents for Communication: In a societal environment communication is the key to getting on in life. It is not only needed to ensure that we do well in society but it is also necessary if we are to ascertain who is and who is not a suitable reproductive partner. Parents must teach their children communicative techniques and encourage them to practice those techniques.
Parents for Achievement: Although learning, discipline and communication will help us to survive in our prevailing environment the key to being genetically successful is to maximise our potential, to get the most out of us and to therefore make us as attractive as possible. This is what parents should be seeking to do for their children. They must coach their children towards the discovery of their talents and they must provide them with the opportunity to realise their potential by nurturing those talents.
The aim of Genetic Parenting is to remind us of our genetic purpose and to thereby guide us towards being better parents. It is only by doing this that we can consider ourselves as having properly fulfilled our genetic responsibility.
“Genetic Parenting” is the second volume in a series on our relationship with our genes.
All three volumes are available to buy on-line through Amazon.
© Copyright, Steve Oxley 2018