Living the Dream – Really?

We all have dreams, hopes, aspirations but, I do wonder, how many of us actually get to live out those wonderful life stories of success and fulfilment.

Most people plod through life, living out a mundane, uninspiring existence. We work; we relax, we sleep; we work, we relax, we sleep……. Life has a routine; life has a monotony. Life, for many of us, just passes on by.

Although we so desperately want to live the dream; it’s too easy to live in a dream. And so, all too often, that’s what we duly do. We dream of the good things – quite often of fame and riches. It’s a bubble that we are happy to envelop ourselves within. In our dreams we can be anything we want to be. In this private world, life has no limitations.

It would be both easy and safe to be contented with this imaginary world. Living in the dream, when really, we should be using our dreams as our inspiration, as the means for setting our ambitions and goals.

“This is what you want to achieve. Go out and do something about it.”

There is no value in “what ifs” or “I wish”. Dreams are there to show us what might be achieved. They should be the basis for our goals.

We are all on a journey. That’s life. But to get anywhere, we have to set ourselves a destination.

Most will never arrive at their desired destination. For those that try, most will fail. Most of us will not realise our ambitions. Most of us are on a journey to nowhere. But that shouldn’t make us downhearted or lacklustre. It’s important that we make an effort, that we try to realise a goal. There has to be some meaning to it all. We must be living for some greater purpose.

Or is that just me? Does nobody else feel it? Doesn’t everybody want to achieve some destiny?

To do that we must believe in our own self-importance. We must value our own individual existence. We must feel that we have some worth, that we can make a difference.

It may not work out. Unfortunately, for most of us it will not work out. Most of us will pass from this planet without leaving any enduring mark. It will be as if we have never existed.

But that shouldn’t stop us trying.

And you never know, you might be the one that makes it. That’s what we have to live for; that’s what we have to believe. We do hear tales of triumph and the ensuing glory, acclaim and riches. That’s why, although the pursuit of that goal may well appear to be fruitless and despairing, we should not abandon our quest. There has to be hope.

Who knows what will happen when?

And if it’s not worked so far then we must just try harder. We must believe we are destined for great things. We must focus on it, work at it, believe in it. Still no joy. Then focus harder, work harder, believe more. Give it every chance. We should not be distracted from our goal, from the realisation of our dream.

Of course, we could play it safe. To risk nothing is to lose nothing. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. And yes, it may be that by not pursuing our ambitions we can kid ourselves that we have done alright in life, but then we also should think of those lost possibilities. We may not have failed but then we will not really have tried.

To not try is to be neglectful, wasteful, perhaps even cowardly. We should not shun our aspirations.

As hard as we try though, there can be no assurances, no certainties, no presumption. Life offers no guarantees. And, of course, there is usually one extra element that we need if we are to triumph. We need a bit of luck in life. We need to be in the right place at the right time.

Things do and will happen if we put ourselves out there and we avail ourselves of the possibilities that come our way. More often than not, that is about having a positive, embracing, enthusiastic attitude. We need to see those opportunities to make our dreams a possibility.

Some of us never get a lucky break. Or so it seems. More likely, we never realise the opportunities that were open to us and all too often our lucky break goes unrealised and passes us by.

Our motivation comes from the prize itself. Our dreams should inspire and drive us to greater things. Just think of what might be possible. What a difference we could make.

It’s great to have dreams; it’s even better if we can live those dreams. That’s why we should endeavour to turn our dreams into reality. The trouble is, that requires us to take actions. We have to be brave. We have to put ourselves out there. We have to make things happen.





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